EYEHEARTZOMBIES

Big happenings that I won’t tell you about. Well, not all of them. You’ll get a few good tidbits out of me, I guess. But only if you tickle the right spots.

So, what do you think of my recent habit of some stupid first paragraph? Does it actually get you to read the post? I hope so, otherwise there’s no point in even having it, now is there?

First off, the state of affairs here at EHZ. Yeah, the site is still alive. I’m still alive, even. I’ve just been busy and haven’t really had anything worth posting anyway, so that’s that. I don’t get the annoying family drama that Ray has to deal with and I don’t do anything interesting like Max so I have little to talk about.

But I do have some big news. I finally got a job! Well, a job since we’ve moved to Arkansas. I’m the head (only) developer for Sproutit.com and for their first project. I’ll tell more about it once I get more comfortable working on it and actually contribute some new code to it. I’m taking over for another developer who went on to a regular job after college. It’s gonna be hot shit, so pay attention.

Hey, if I don’t hype it, who will?

Anyway, other big news around the Love front, but those details will get discussed later on, too. It’s not that we don’t trust you, we just don’t like you. Really, it’s nothing personal. Besides, this would be better announced at the-loves.com anyway, and it won’t appear there for another couple of months. Yeah, you have to wait that long.

But, anyway, I wanted to talk about something serious.

Like I said, Ray has had some family posts over at his site that have kind of sparked a lot of mish-mash and drivel. The way I see it (and I know little/nothing of the total history), people are trying to get him and his parents all nice-nice again. And it’s kind of funny that a lot of their argument is that he’s posting his “dirty laundry” on the internet for all to see and that he shouldn’t let people interfere with his life in that way.

What exactly are they doing? They’re not Ray or his wife Amy, they’re not his parents. They’re a third party and they have as little right interfering as I do.

Less, even, since Ray is a friend and has unburdened himself to me a few times over this brouhaha. And if any of you are his family and want to talk to me, shove off. I’m not a part of this and don’t want to be except as a friend to Ray. That means I’m on his side, so I probably won’t get along with yours.

Anyway, that’s not my point (wow, I get off of it so easily). What I’m wanting to write about is privacy and…permission…on the web.

If I publish something here about a fight I had with Elaine (not that we had one or that I would post about it if we did), do you have the right to tell me, in detail, what you think of it? Or should you just read it, shrug and think Oh those kids!?

If you do feel that you have the right to tell me what you think, to offer your advice for my personal life, don’t I have the right to tell you to fuck off? I mean, in the end, it is my life. Granted some opinions (wife, parents, close friends) have more weight than others, but in the end mine is the only decision that gets acted on.

If you don’t tell me, I shouldn’t be surprised to see no comments in a post like that. And that kind of defeats the whole purpose of having a blog/diary where you expect and want feedback from your visitors/readers. So we have a quandry.

I expect that this is much like what Ray has been thinking about, and he’s handled it admirably on his site, I think. Comments from those he doesn’t want to see comments from, or comments not appropriate for his site, get deleted. Repeat offenders get their IPs blocked and all of that is his perogative.

I don’t block IPs here (well, MySpace is permenantly blocked, but that’s different) and I rarely delete comments (only 2 in the past 3 years). It’s just how I want to do it around here. I think you deserve to be able to say whatever you want in the United States of Kenneth, which is where EHZ is located, if you didn’t know. But if I posted something more personal, like Ray has done, would I be so cavalier to your comments?

Yeah, I’ve questioned myself around in circles and into a corner. Oh well.